Today in Asexual Media Imagery: The Birds and the Bees
Apparently the hip 2018 trend in “omg they aren’t having sex” article stock photos is a feud between the birds and the bees. It’s like an evolution of the classic “stock photo couple standing as far...
View ArticleCarnival of Aces December 2018 Wrap-up: “Burnout”
Last month’s Carnival of Aces was on the topic of Burnout, which I am accidentally staying true to by posting this wrap up like 4 days late… We received a lot really great submissions – A big thanks to...
View ArticleThe Ring Theory of Activist Venting
The ring theory of activist venting, which I’ll explain later in this post, draws it’s inspiration from a very insightful article from the LA times that I encountered a few years ago. The article...
View ArticleAro Communities, Ace Communities: Eight Observations from an Aro Ace
This is my submission for the February 2019 Join Carnival of Aros and Carnival of Aces, on the theme of “The Relationship Between Aro and Ace Communities”. I couldn’t decide what I wanted to make a...
View ArticleAromantic As A Noun?
To follow up Aro Week and the inaugural Carnival of Aros with a more light-hearted topic: what word do you use for the noun form of being aromantic? For example: Asexual -> Asexuality; Polyamorous...
View ArticleAro Awareness Activism and The Chance to be the Change You Want to See
This is a submission for the March 2019 Carnival of Aros, on the theme of “It’s Great to Be Aro“. Also, while it’s targeted at potential aro activists, most of the tips here are super general and can...
View ArticleOn the Horizon: Bremelanotide and AMAG Pharmaceuticals
After delving back into the wonderfully frustrating and misinformation-filled world of HSDD medications, it looks like it’s not just Addyi that has new updates. It’s also probably a good time to start...
View ArticleAtheism and Aromanticism: Viewing Marriage Law as Contract Law
This is an only-slightly-late entry for the May Carnival of Aros, on the topic of “The Intersection of Aromanticism and Religion”. Author Notes: This is mostly written from the perspective of US...
View ArticleHousekeeping Post: Design Changes
Some of you have probably noticed already, but I’m currently in the process of testing out some different theme and customization options, so the general look of this blog may be randomly changing a...
View ArticleHers and Addyi in Action: Potentially Lax Screenings, Missing Warnings, and More
While I decided that testing if I would get Addyi prescribed to me by Hers was maybe not a good idea, it looks like reporters at the New York Times did test out the service! (and a few others like it),...
View ArticleThe Economics of Being Alone
This is a submission for the October 2019 Carnival of Aros, on the subject of “Aromanticism and Aloneness“. On a purely emotional and social level, I don’t really have any objections to “going it...
View ArticleWhen being aro/ace means you only ever get to be the no-fun naysayer, it...
I was talking with some other aces and aro folks in a local group chat about the inevitably akward situation of finding out that someone likes you / is attracted to you, and the stressful part of...
View ArticleAllyship: The Little Things Count a Lot
This is my very last minute response to the January 2020 Carnival of Aros, on the subject of “New“, in celebration of my shiny new aro/ace/queer pride swag from the holidays this year. When it comes to...
View ArticleA cautionary tale (with a hopeful message): Our shared pains may not be...
This post is for the February 2020 Carnival of Aros, on the subject of “Variation vs. Unity” One of the things that communities of shared experience and identity often bond over is commiserating over...
View ArticleDifferentiating Attraction/Orientations (Or, the “Split Attraction Model” by...
This is my entry for the April 2020 Carnival of Aces on “Names,” hosted by Jam. Many of you may be familiar with the term “Split Attraction Model” (SAM), which is often used to refer to the idea in ace...
View ArticleWhat’s the deal with this “Ace Day” Thing?
This document is a work in progress, and changes will be made as additional information is discovered. If you have any suggestions, corrections, requests for clarifications, or archived copies of...
View ArticleOpen Questions for Aromantic Research
In a recent paper by Antonsen et al., which primarily compared aromantic to romantic individuals within asexual response group, the author also happened to throw out one fact about their control group:...
View ArticleA Brief Review of Asexuality in Manifestos
I’m still not sure what I would want to include in an asexual manifesto (it’s quite a daunting task!), so I instead I want to chime in to this Month’s Carnival of Aces on Manifestos by dropping in a...
View ArticleHers and Addyi in Action: Potentially Lax Screenings, Missing Warnings, and More
While I decided that testing if I would get Addyi prescribed to me by Hers was maybe not a good idea, it looks like reporters at the New York Times did test out the service! (and a few others like it),...
View ArticleThe Economics of Being Alone
This is a submission for the October 2019 Carnival of Aros, on the subject of “Aromanticism and Aloneness“. On a purely emotional and social level, I don’t really have any objections to “going it...
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